The subject of parenting has often come under huge emotional discussion from time to time. However, I believe that there is no perfect model of parenting which can be adopted en masse. Places, people and cultures do affect parenting,
The police report that “children in cars & parents in bars” sends a chilling message to modern day parenting. How stressed are parents that they have to go to the bar first for a few drinks (or too many drinks). I do not have stats to back this argument, but the police report can be taken as a basis that not all is well with parenting.
It is often said that parents must spend quality time with their children.
Many parents cannot afford to do this because of work pressures or social commitments with sports, church, temples, mosques and kitty parties.
Such parents leave their children in care of others, Thus denying their children the emotional bonding process. This is a sad state of affairs.
The modern day parents have also abandoned their children to communications technology: smart mobile phones, smart television screens or computer games. Children do get addicted to these at a very young age and lose their verbal communication skills.
They also lose their etiquette & manners in dealing with visitors or elderly people. The parenting system is crumbling if not already crumbled.
The modern day rush for earning to have a decent living, both parents have to work. However, in times gone by the mothers were treated as first teachers and were expected to stay home to provide that much needed bonding with children.
In an ideal home if parents are working the grandparents step in to look after the children. But this is an exception rather than the norm.
When we hear painful stories of teenage pregnancies, children paddling drugs, HIV Aids, cutting classes, sniffing glue or pun pun.
The childhood & teenage problems are mounting at a meteoric rate. Society seems to have gone berserk.
Nothing seems to work. It is time to stop and think of our parenting weaknesses !
Source : Dewan Chand
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